Why is it important to have an attorney who is neutral party to the proceedings? All court cases come with some level on intimate investment for the parties, whether it be a business deal gone south or a personal injury situation. Above those is the level of investment we have in our families, those issues addressed in family court are the ones that are the most personal to us. For this reason it is important to have an attorney on your side, who is advocating for you, but sees the case through neutral, legalistic eyes and does not get caught up in the high emotions.
It is also best to remember your lawyer knows what they are doing, and it is more than likely that he has done this many times before. The decisions of how you deal with your case are ultimately yours, but remember family attorneys do this every day, they see what happens in the court, if you're paying for their advice, at least be sure you are paying attention to what your attorney is saying.
Lastly, bringing your spouse to court over every possible thing is not always the best choice, even if they deserve it. One malicious house wife found this one out the hard way back in 1995, in the case Johnson v. Johnson 654 A.2d 1212, Mrs. Johnson Attempted to sue her former husband for slandering her after he made a comment that referred to her as . . . a promiscuous lady, in a restraint. Unfortunately for Mrs. Johnson, Mr. Johnson was able to show that he was indeed speaking the truth. This is just an example of why you need to choose your battles wisely and not get caught up in these emotional wars, or else who knows you could end up with a court opinion regarding your scandalous behaviors.